People are demanding more control and direction over the resolution of their family disputes than ever before. They understand the need to accept responsibility for and maintain direction of their lives and families, even as those families are separating. Each family's situation is unique, and no longer are they willing to accept the same "cookie cutter" approach to their domestic problems as may be applied to other families.

Mediation is a private, informal, confidential process whereby two parties meet with a neutral mediator to reach a resolution specifically tailored to their individual circumstances and needs. The mediator does not represent either party. Although many mediators are lawyers, they aren't advocates for either side. It is also less adversarial, which is an important consideration when dealing with such emotional issues as children and support.

Mediation is not arbitration. The mediator doesn't make the decision for you, but helps you reach your agreement. You get to create the solutions that work for you and your family in a private, confidential setting. You can, but are not required to, have a consulting attorney to advise you during the process and approve the final settlement. Among the advantages of mediation are:

• You can create a solution which works for your family.
• You retain more control over your family dispute and your family estate.
• You set the timetable to suit your convenience, not the judge's.
• The time is set aside for you, so you don't have to wait for another case to finish before you can start yours, or worse, have to come back another day.
• You discuss your family in private, not in a public setting with twenty or more strangers in the room.
• The mediator can prepare the required paperwork or you can do it yourselves.
• You reduce conflict, an especially important consideration when you have children and will be interacting with each other around your children's activities for years to come.
• You pay less in attorney fees, which means you retain more of your estate for yourselves and your families.