There are countless books and websites with information on divorce and related issues. Their quality and usefulness varies widely. Use discretion before assuming that information you found in a popular book on divorce, or on the web, is correct, much less helpful. In creating the following list, we have focused on resources which take a balanced approach to divorce, encourage couples to resolve their differences with their dignity and integrity intact, and place their children’s interests ahead of their own. Avoid web sites or books which promote conflict, encourage battle, or have a personal or political ax to grind. Divorce is a complicated issue, and few families’ problems are resolved by simplistic, one-dimensional answers.
Here are a few of the best.

Books

How to Avoid the Divorce from Hell (and dance together at your daughter's wedding) by M. Sue Talia (First Edition 1996, Second Edition due out soon) Nexus Publishing Company

We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce  by Constance Ahrons (2004) Harper Collins

Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting by Melinda Blau (1993) Putnam

Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life  by Sam Marguilies (1992) Simon & Schuster

Men on Divorce: Conversations with Ex-Husbands by Ellie Wymard (1994) Hay House

Parents Are Forever by Shirley Thomas, (1997) Springboard Publications

Putting Kids First  by Michael Oddenino  (1995) Family Connections Publications

The Good Divorce  by Constance Ahrons, (1994) Harper Collins

Between Love & Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce by L. Gold (1992) Plenum Press

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life by Abigail Trafford (1992) Harper

Divorced But Still My Parents by Shirley Thomas (1998) Springboard Publications

Ex-Etiquette for Paremts by Blackstone-Ford and Jupe (2004) Chicago Review Press

Online Resources

Divorce Information located at www.divorceinfo.com
(This is the best overall divorce information website.)

Divorce Helpline located at www.divorcehelp.com.
(California specific, but with good information)

Up To Parents located at www.uptoparents.org
(This is a great interactive resource for working out joint goals for your kids.)

Your Social Worker at www.yoursocialworker.com
(Common sense articles about many divorce issues)

Bonus Families at www.bonusfamilies.com
(Lots of useful information for step parents and integrating families.)